Talking to ourselves – and learning to listen
We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it’s out loud or an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk, and how we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and subsequent actions.
Some people’s self-talk is mostly about the future while, for others, it’s an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh, critical, or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people, but, more often than not, it is about ourselves – and is often negative.
If you listen carefully, you’ll notice that your inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn’t random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs.
In The Science of Self Talk, mindfulness expert Ian Tuhovsky explains how we can rewrite the script when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk in order to change the conversation.
This unique book covers:
- Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk – and knowing the difference
- The impact of negative self-talk
- Learned helplessness
- Positive self-talk – challenge or threat?
- The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80 percent of the effects come from 20 percent of the causes
- Creating the right circumstances for motivation
- Getting to know yourself
- Loving yourself – emotional intelligence
- Turning down the volume on your self-talk
Self-talk is a little like turning on the director’s commentary on a movie. You can simply watch the movie, or you can add in commentary about what’s happening in it – this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our daily lives. The Science of Self Talk can help you to rewrite the script of your movie and improve the way that you – and others – see yourself.
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