The available parent of a tween/teenager is open to discussion, offers advice and problem-solving (but doesn’t insist on it). She allows her child to make some mistakes, sets limits (primarily where health and safety are concerned), never lectures, is available but not controlling. The available parent is self-aware, keeps her own emotions in check when dealing with her teen, is unconditionally loving and accepting, open to new and different ways of thinking, neither cruel nor dismissive – ever. The available parent is fun and funny, brings levity to the most stressful situation, and her availability is absolute. The available parent fosters an extraordinary teenager.
Dr. John Duffy, a clinical psychologist with a thriving private practice, and whose highly satisfied corporate clients include Sears, Allstate, General Electric, Household Financial, Exxon Mobil, Accenture, Bank of America and Hewitt Associates, can show you how to become one, and breathe easier as a 13th birthday approaches.